When Ross and I first began discussing marriage, he wanted to get married before I graduated from college. He thought it would make the transition from dorm life to living together easier. I think he was right.
Not to say it's hard to live with Ross. I like it fine, and we are not sick of each other or anything. But it IS hard to have moved to a new city where we know very few people. Very different from living with my dear mod. Ross, being an introvert, is taking it better than I am, though he's bored too. I find myself on social networking sites constantly, trying to fulfill the yearning I have for a good in-person conversation or even a mod Dawson's Creek marathon. The highlight of the past week was spending an afternoon with a Bethel modmate, Elizabeth, who is working in the mountains this summer. I can't wait for church tomorrow purely because it allows for social interaction.
I'm also becoming aware that I don't exactly know how to make friends in a non-school setting. It's so nice to just be plunked into a giant group of peers and sort through them to find some you like to spend time with. How do adults make friends? Work, I guess? Church?
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I think it's pretty normal to feel a little isolated when you first move to a new place. If nothing else, I'll be back soon and I'll be as entertaining as I can :) Hang in there!
Oh, I miss you, Boehmie. You're very personable; it'll get better!
It will get better. Church is pretty much where we met all of our friends outside of Bethel. Even though Jess is very entertaining in and of himself I'm sure he will be able to introduce you to many more people.
Hmm... this sounds so familiar! If it's any consolation, I felt exactly the same way a year ago. It's rough. Friends now are coworkers, people from church, and a neighbor or two... and hanging on to friends from the past (sometimes harder and with more effort than I should?!). Although, I've come to the conclusion that I'm glad I'm not still in the Bethel area; I needed some separation from college life. I wish I had some brilliant advice, but I don't... Good luck!
-Megan
It does get easier! Take a look at meetup.com, or if you have time, volunteer work is a great way to meet people. I'm not sure if you would be interested, but when I first moved to NYC I met a lot of friends through a running club. In a few months you'll be so busy you won't know what to do with all of your new friends!
Maybe it does get better. I don't know if it's actually, um, normal to have college-like friendships after college, though. I know neither Philip nor I have really found any friends here that we're that close with, but as a result, we pretty much just hang out with each other all the time, which has been really good for our relationship. Obviously, it's different for you guys who spent a lot more time together before living together than we did, but for us, moving far away from everyone we knew and being forced to rely on each other for pretty much all social interaction has definitely brought us closer.
That said, I really hope Denver has better church choices than Portland. It pretty much has to.
You might want to look at University of Colorado's forums to see what recent grads are up to- there might be gatherings at a local bar where you can happen to go to in order to meet some people your age. Other than that, just going to places that reflect you might help- like farmers markets or anything like it. Just a thought! Good luck!
Katelyn
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